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"It changed my life" recurred
so often in the feedback from our students that we decided to write an
article entitled
" How Graphology Changed my Life"
"I first heard of graphology when I was in my twenties, and staying
with a friend of mine in the West Indies. We had been invited to a party
on board a French ship that had docked in port for a few days. The captain
invited my friend back to his cabin. As she didn't want to be left alone
with him, she dragged me along too, which seemed to scupper the captain's
plans! To pass the time, he offered to analyse our handwriting. I was
amazed at how accurate he was, considering he had only met us that night.
"That started my interest in graphology
and, after my son was born,
I studied graphology and psychology with Renna Nezos, one of the leading graphologists in the UK, at The British
Academy of Graphology. What had started as a hobby soon developed into
a passion. I fitted in my course homework whilst my son was sleeping.
I think I was searching for a new direction in life, and found it with
graphology.
"Graphology has helped me understand my son, who is now 16. He has
always been happy-go-lucky, with lots of friends and looking for the fun
in life. I wouldn't have fully seen the other side to him if I hadn't
analysed his writing. Like all mothers, I want to understand what
is going on in his head, and how best to help him, especially if he gets
into trouble. There are many reasons for children causing mischief. It
could be that they are deeply unhappy, or want to draw attention to themselves,
or are just bored. Punishment isn't always the best way to tackle these
problems. In my work as a graphologist, I am involved in the analysis
of children's writing. It can show all kinds of inner turmoil or psychological
problems.
"The major advantage of graphology is that you can't hide from it.
Some people are very successful at job interviews, or putting on a front
to people that isn't their true self. Companies can waste money hiring
people who are unsuitable for the job. Graphology gets to the core of
their psychological make-up and can identify possible areas where the
person's personality is at odds with the job profile.
"I've learnt a lot about myself too. I must admit that I have in
the past suffered from feelings of inferiority - I sometimes don't think
I'm 'quite up to scratch'. Having practised graphology for 16 years I
have seen the writing of all sorts of people, including many in very senior
positions, some of whom are emotionally crippled. It has made me realise
that I'm a pretty stable, rounded person after all.
"Graphology isn't so much about predicting the future or how someone
will behave, it is about understanding people in the same way that psychology
does. For example, I recently analysed the writing of a couple who were
having problems with their relationship. The woman complained that her
husband was difficult and avoided social events. Their handwriting samples
revealed that the problem was that they had different levels of sociability.
She needed people around her whereas he needed his own space sometimes.
Now they understand that, they arrange for some nights for her to be out
with friends and him to stay at home, and it seems to be working.
"I even use graphology at work. My employer once insisted on hiring
a female chef even though I had advised him that her writing showed signs
of evasiveness and untrustworthiness. Her youth and attractiveness may
have clouded his judgement. Needless to say, she let him down badly and
she no longer works for the company. Furthermore my employer is now very
keen to have my input into personnel matters!
Sarah
"I was a very timid child, and I had a pretty difficult childhood.
My father especially seemed to curtail me at every step and I was taken
out of school at 16. Despite this, I had a burning desire to prove myself,
so I did a music degree under my own steam. When I communicated my success
to my father I was greeted with a scathing: "You could do better…"
I just couldn't seem to win his approval or love, and this scarred me
deeply.
"Things went from bad to worse after my mother died, when I was
45 years old. What almost destroyed me was his reaction. He completely
wrote me off and didn't talk to me for 10 years. I was distraught, and
tried to find answers through counselling. To be honest, I didn't resolve
my issues until I showed my father's writing to a graphologist.
"The graphologist's first reaction was: He's a tyrant! The writing
showed signs of obsession and an implacable personality. It was incredibly
tense and angular, and the shape of the signature resembled a chain-saw.
"After having the writing analysed, I came to realise that my father's
behaviour was not my fault, and that I could do nothing to change the
situation. In a short period of time, my feelings of guilt and desolation
washed away, and I saw myself in a totally new light.
"I started studying graphology, and after 3 years, graduated with
the diploma certificate in my hand, something I was very proud of. I developed
lasting friendships with my fellow students, because we shared our personal
stories with each other and grew to understand our own personalities and
our past. I love graphology because it makes you learn about what makes
different people tick. It is extremely hard work but the rewards are huge.
Psychology forms a big part of the study of graphology and one learns
about different theories of personality, which are interesting in themselves.
"My sons are all in their 20s and 30s now, but
graphology has helped
me to understand them as they were growing up. For example, my eldest
son was always a lively and sociable child, and I encouraged him to go
into law, which he resisted, much to my disappointment. But I realised
from his writing that his outward personality was just a façade.
His true personality was timid, introverted and melancholic which made
him detest being centre stage. I realised that I couldn't push him into
things that he was unsuited for.
"One of the main benefits of graphology, to be honest, is that I
am in demand socially and that people seem to be very interested in what
I have to say! I encounter some people who criticise graphology as superficial
nonsense, and this wounds me, especially after all the years I've been
studying it. I respond to it by challenging them to send me 3 pages of
writing for me to analyse. They soon eat their words!"
Caroline
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